Having done extensive research, here I have come up with a fairly extensive list of the things that that men really want in bed.
Ladies, the old adage as to what men want still rings true today: they want a cleaner in the house, a chef in the kitchen, and a whore in the bedroom; but what else do men want?
Well, having done extensive research, and asking typical men on the street what they desire in a life-time partner, I have come up with a fairly extensive list.
The thing is once you know what men really like in bed, how do you go about giving it to them? (And I’m not suggesting for one moment that you subvert your own principles and just give in to anything,) but, in a good and honest relationship, we should all TRY to give our partner what they want, as often as is practical.
Most Common Fantasies:
The top fantasies that most men think about are the usual like –
– They like the idea of being dominated
– They want you to wear no underwear
– They would like you to dress up in uniform for some role-play
– They want to watch porn, preferably with you; they would like you to turn yourself on (and preferably watch you doing it) [Read – Why Do Married Men Watch Porn]
– They want you to tell them when you are horny, (not every man can read the signs!), and when you are telling them what you want, they would like you to make it ‘dirty’ talk
– They would like you to take the initiative sometimes
And they would like to fuck a virgin.
Do I or Don’t I?
Now, some of these are easier to go along with than others, for instance, ‘No underwear’; this one is easy, but don’t just not wear any, make sure that you tell him you aren’t wearing any, and preferably somewhere where he can do nothing about it, (in a restaurant, or at his parents’ house.)
By the time he can do something about it, the anticipation will have him raring to go, and he will thank you for it.
The whole dressing-up idea can be a big no-no for a lot of women; but please consider that when men look at our bodies, that they see something different to what we do when we look in a mirror. [Tips – How To Look HOT and Sexier]
They see bare breasts, bare genitals, and a bare ass; we see droopy boobs, a spare tyre and cellulite, men don’t care about cellulite; most of them don’t EVEN know what it is!
So if he would like you to dress up, try and go along with it, think doctor and nurse, or he can be a thief (or something similar) and you can be a police officer who has to handcuff him to stop him committing any further ‘crimes.’
He will be so turned on by the role play, I promise he won’t notice that your body may not be as firm as it used be; all he will see is his beloved looking sexy to please him.
Born Again ‘Virgin’:
Moving slightly on from role play, to playing a game where you don’t need an outfit; most men love the idea of being the one to take a girl’s virginity; for this you just need to get into the right mind-set. [Read – 7 Fun and Sexy Games to Spice Up Your Love Life]
Pretend that you are younger than you are now, and think back to how you felt when you first had sex; now for most of us, that wasn’t too fantastic an experience, and if we could have been ‘taken’ by someone with knowledge and experience, it would have been far more memorable.
Now transport that to what you know today, but still act sweet and innocent; let him give you directions, and get him to tell you what he is going to do.
If he comes out with something like, ‘And now I’m going to finger your tight pussy, but I’ll be gentle, and I promise that I won’t hurt,’ that can be a massive turn-on for both of you.
You can even pretend that you don’t want to go any further, saying things like ‘I can’t do this; my parents would kill me;’ it all adds to the ‘authenticity’ of the situation.
Let him ‘talk you in to it’ and afterwards you can say something along the lines of ‘You are so good at that; can you please teach me more?’
He will adore you even more than he does now, and it gives him a massive ego boost to be told he’s so good at love-making that you never want anyone else to do it to you.
Don’t Knock It ‘Till you’ve Tried It’:
If he wants the two of you to watch porn, or would like you to talk dirty, this can be slightly trickier, if you are set against it; all I would say is never do anything that you don’t want to, but if you are up for trying these things, then the following might help.
The first time I watched it, I was incredibly turned on afterwards, and couldn’t wait to try out some of the things I had seen in the movie.
It is also a good way to get turned on, and in the mood; sometimes the only thing we want when we get to bed is to sleep, whereas if you put a movie on downstairs, you can have a bit of couch-loving, and then go to bed to sleep. [Read – Is It Bad To Watch Porn – The Undeniable Facts]
For a lot of people as well, the idea of watching another couple having sex is a huge turn-on; this way you can do that, without the embarrassment of someone else being there in real life!
The idea of dirty talk can be off-putting to some women, especially if they are shy; but trust me, he will not think anything bad of you, and in fact he will love it! If you can, just try something like ‘Mm that feels good, can you do it harder please’, or ‘I love it when you…’
Once you feel ok with that, try something along the lines of ‘Put another finger in’, or ‘I love the feel of your hard cock in me’, concluding with the classic, ‘Fuck me!’
Again, many women can be shy in initiating sex, but just imagine how he feels if you say ‘No.’ Would you like rejection? Of course not; so give him a break now and again, and show him how much you want him, by initiating sex.
You don’t have to go the whole ‘throw him on the bed and have your wicked way,’ (although he would probably like that too!); all you need to do to convey your message is begin with a simple kiss.
Hold the back of his head close and slip your tongue into his mouth; press your breasts against him, and maybe place his hands on them.
He will swiftly get the idea of what you want, and will be raring to go!
If you want to, you can tell him that you are in charge, and he must do what you say; this combines you initiating, and also his wish to be dominated, therefore fulfilling two of his fantasies in one! [Read – 35 Brilliant Ideas To Make Him Addicted To You Forever]
The biggest message I would like to give to you is communication; this is the key to every loving relationship, keep talking, keep laughing, and never go to bed on an argument.
Also remember ladies, for every fantasy of his that you help him enjoy, he has to return the favour, so don’t be shy in telling him what you want too.