Do you find yourself saying you’re over your ex and secretly stalking his Facebook or wearing his shirt to bed?
Are you sure you’re over him?
Break-ups are hard! They can make you feel completely worthless and depressed. A common feeling that many people experience after going through a break-up is not being able to move on. There are some people who tend to hold on even if the relationship has been over long ago.
Do you wonder if you’re over your ex or are you still hanging on?
Is your heart ready to give to another or does it still belong to you ex?
Do you profess proudly to your friends that you’re over him and moved on, yet you still secretly cry because you miss him?
11 signs you still love your ex
1. Social media stalking
Are you constantly checking on your ex’s Facebook page for an update? Do you look through all his pictures to make sure he is not seeing another person?
Do you stalk every single one of his social media sites just waiting to see what he has to say? If this sounds like you, you are clearly not over your ex.
2. What do your friends say?
Your friends may know you better than you do. Your friends are the only ones who see who you truly are and they will know if you are over your ex or not. Are you constantly bringing up your ex in conversations that he does not belong in?
Are you constantly mentioning his name to see what your friends have to say? If your friends are telling you that you are not over your ex, they are most likely right.
Most couples go through the phase of wanting to take pictures together constantly. I mean, obviously you want to show him off to your Facebook friends so you post pictures of you and your sexy man.
Once you break-up those pictures might need to be deleted. If you are keeping pictures of your ex on your Facebook page or any social media site, you might not be over him.
4. Are you sleeping with him?
Trust me, this happens more than you may think. When people break-up, someone will typically propose the idea of staying friends. In most cases, this is the worst proposal ever!
It is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for and if you do dare to walk this path, you will probably find yourself sleeping together. Obviously, if this is occurring in your life, you are not over your ex.
Ladies love to receive presents from a boyfriend. It is completely normal. If you are keeping the presents that your ex bought you when you were dating in plain sight at all times, you are not over him.
When you look at those presents you will automatically be reminded of him, which may not help you in your journey of moving on. Put the presents away if at all possible.
6. The dreaded relationship status
Changing your relationship status can be one of the hardest things for some ladies after a break-up.
Laura H shared her story with me and she said – “It took me 45 minutes of staring and plenty of tears to finally change my relationship status on Facebook back to single. Clearly, I was not over my ex and you are not either if you’re experiencing the same thing.”
7. You cry when something reminds you of him
Of course, it is normal for the coffee shop that you met in or the restaurant that you shared your first kiss in reminds you of your ex, but if every song you hear and every place you go reminds you of your ex, you are clearly not over him.
8. You play dress up
This is especially common for women. You may only be going to the grocery store to pick up some eggs and cheese but you wear your cutest outfit along with super high heels and bright red lip gloss in the hopes that you might see your ex. Obviously this will become humorous in the future when your ex is completely out of your mind.
9. You find out where he will be and when
If you have been stalking his social media sites and have come across a post saying “At the beach in the Holiday Inn…” and you feel the urge to go find him, you are not over him.
Theresa has done this as well. One day she saw a Facebook post stating that her ex was going shopping with his brother. She leaped out of her seat, put her cutest clothes on and went to the mall because that’s the only place she thought he would shop. She never found him so use that as a reminder that you will probably only be wasting gas and time.
10. You still text your ex regularly
If you and your ex are texting regularly, you’re probably not over each other. Sometimes it’s hard to get over someone when you’re still in contact.
11. You watch all of your ex’s favorite shows
Did your ex love Wheel of Fortune and Grey’s Anatomy and now you have to watch every episode (even though before you rarely did)? This is a clear sign you miss your ex and might not be over him or her.
Getting over your ex can be extremely hard. After a break-up, you need time to heal and move on. If you have participated in any of these actions, you will know that your ex is still a big part of your thought life and you are not allowing yourself to move on.
Step-by-step methods if you want to get back together with ex –
Perhaps you want to try to work things out with your ex after all or it’s time to cut all ties, address the ways you’re still giving him or her your energy, and move on once and for all.
Disclosure: Based on request, real name is not used in examples.