There’s nothing more exhilarating than being the feeling of being in love, but how do know if you are in love and not just infatuation?
You feel your heart racing and there are sparks every time your hands touch. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep, you’re constantly thinking about that person and you can’t seem to get him or her out of your head.
Is this it?
Could it actually be love or could it just be a rush of endorphins?
Much has already been said in romantic movies, love songs and romance novels about how being in love feels, and when you find yourself experiencing these intense emotions, especially if it’s the first time, it does feel a lot like love.
Unfortunately, love, lust, and infatuation all share SIMILAR symptoms, so to speak.
The electricity, the connection, the need for physical contact with that person, all of these are present when you are in love, but they are also present when you get a whiff of your partner’s pheromones. It could all be just a natural biological reaction when one is attracted to someone.
The TRUE TEST for knowing whether you are in love or not are in how these emotions you’re feeling affect your life. Does something inside you stir and make you want to be a better person?
It may sound a bit cheesy, but that’s really how love is. [Read – What is True Love – 5 Signs of True Love In a Relationship]
It makes you do things you wouldn’t normally do and it gives you courage to take risks you wouldn’t normally take.
Here are some of the telltale signs that you are, indeed, in love
You’ve forgotten about what’s his/her name
The hurt and trauma of a break up can still haunt us long after the relationship has ended. Out of the blue, we remember the person who broke our hearts and all the pain comes rushing back again.
It doesn’t matter if you’re 100% single or if you’re dating someone at the moment. This rush of emotion can strike you at any time.
We might even find ourselves comparing the new person in our lives with our ex. If you’ve finally fallen in love with someone else, your ex becomes somewhat a vague memory. Sure, you may reminisce about the good old days every now and they, but you don’t feel that surge of emotions anymore.
This is because the person you have fallen in love with fills your heart with so much joy, you don’t have the room for your ex in there anymore.
No one else seems to be interesting enough
You look at your “little black book” or your contact list of dating prospects and you think to yourself, who are all these people and why do I have their numbers? It’s not that you suddenly develop amnesia or anything like that; it’s just that you’re not interested in dating anybody else anymore.
There’s ONLY one name and phone number you want to keep, and that belongs to the person you are in love with.
For some people who aren’t in an exclusive relationship with the person they are in love with, the thought of dating someone else suddenly feels like it’s cheating, even though technically it’s not.
You are willing to do things you don’t normally do
Let’s say you’ve never liked bowling, but somehow he or she has convinced you to play and you’re surprised at how much you enjoyed something that you used to hate.
These new discoveries wouldn’t have been possible if you were with someone else. Sometimes, just the mere presence of the one you’re in love with makes activities you hate doing seem more enjoyable.
You can spend hours doing nothing with him or her
The idea of spending a lot of time with someone and have nothing fun or exciting to do is usually something people avoid, but if you’re with the one you love, it really doesn’t matter what you do. You enjoy each other’s company and that’s what matters.
Another indicator that you’re in love with someone is that you can just sit and cuddle for a long time without thinking of having sex with him or her.
All you’re thinking of is how comfortable you are in his or her arms and how you don’t want this moment to end.
You allow yourself to open up to the person
Dating is all about getting to know each other better, but let’s face it. When you’re on a date you’re main goal is to impress and so you put your best foot forward. There’s nothing wrong with that.
In fact, keeping some things to yourself can keep the dating period interesting.
However, when you find yourself falling for someone, you want that person to be a part of your life, so you slowly open yourself up and let that person know things about you that you don’t normally tell people.
You feel a surge of inspiration
Love gives us this uplifting feeling that we can do anything we want to do and we can be anything we want to be.
If you are in love with someone, that person shakes up something inside you that gives you the courage to try new things and face your fears. You’re suddenly striving to be a BETTER person without you even realizing it.
If you’re experiencing one or two signs on this list, then chances are you may be in love. 🙂
When we confuse love for something more physical, the emotion tends to be fleeting and once it’s gone, we want to feel that way over and over again.
Love is supposed to make us happy and help us grow, not trap us in a cycle of false feelings and broken hearts.
Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. It’s one of a kind and it doesn’t happen as often as we think it does. The reality is, once you find TRUE love, you’ll never mistake lust or infatuation for love ever again.