To make someone fall in love with you, know that feelings of love are a natural response to certain stimuli, and understanding them is your very own love potion.
The idea of MAKING someone fall in love with you is a bit suspect. It sounds manipulative and in some sense, like cheating.
But the feelings of love are natural responses of your body, and knowing how to trigger those responses can truly make someone fall in love with you.
Here are a few techniques you can use to get someone to notice you and more importantly, stay interested.
1. Use Your Eyes
Everyone says that your eyes are the window to your soul. That’s a romantic way of putting it, but there’s a lot of research to back up the significance of eye contact.
The Rubin Scale, created by Zick Rubin, a psychologist at Harvard, discovered that in a regular conversation, people maintain eye contact somewhere between 30 and 60 percent of the time. Couples who are deeply in love, on the other hand, keep that contact during 75% of the time.
You can easily turn this around by keeping a much higher than normal amount of eye contact with the person you’re trying to make fall in love with you.
Speak to him and keep eye contact in that 75% range, and his brain will subconsciously register that this is a love relationship and respond accordingly.
Another eye trick is to take as long as possible to look away from someone when your conversation is interrupted. Instead of immediately stopping the conversation and looking at the other person, take a few seconds to continue staring into the eyes of the person in front of you. Then, SLOWLY look at the intruder of your conversation.
This sends a strong message to your partner (or soon to be partner) that they’re what’s important to you. [Read – 7 Ways to Attract a Guy That You Need To Start Following]
2. Smile, Smile, Smile
A big part of making someone fall in love with you is showing them how happy they can be with you. If you’re dark and brooding all the time, you might attract someone who likes the mystery, but it’s tough to envision the rest of your life with such a person.
Instead, keep the good feelings coming by smiling as much as you can. Whether it’s because of something he said, something you both see, or even something you remembered from the past, your good feelings will transfer to him and he’ll want to spend more time with you.
To get more flirty with it, a slowly forming smile, a bit of a shy or coy smile, or even a naughty smile all say “this smile’s for you” and will keep him coming back.
3. Guys Love a Mystery
Quite often you’ll meet someone and just ‘click’. That first coffee date turns into an 8-hour information session where you spill your entire life contents on the table because it just ‘feels right’.
As great as it feels to find someone you can do this with, it’s important to leave something for later on. Of course don’t be rude and abrupt, but make sure he still thinks there’s more of you to get to know.
This leaves him wanting more and he’ll be eager to see you again to find out the rest of your life story. [Read – What to Do On a First Date – First Date Tips and Ideas For Women]
4. Show Him Life Will Be Better With You
A lot of us have friends who help us feel sorry for ourselves. They know our past and details of our situation, and it’s easy for a night out to turn into a pity-party or a gossip-session.
While we all feel a bit better ranting and raving about the bad things in our lives, we also know deep down that it doesn’t help.
To really blow someone off their feet, show them the positive side of everything. Show your guy what a positive and exciting outlook on life is like.
Be adventurous, drag him a bit out of his comfort zone, and encourage him to be his best.
Any guy who meets a woman who reminds him of what it feels like to think he can take over the world will definitely be getting another date.
5. Get a Bit Physical
Most women understand that the lightest most innocent touch can send a guy head over heels for you.
The light arm touch when you laugh at one of his jokes, a touch on the shoulder or back when you’re walking together, or any other casual touch that lasts a bit longer than it normally would all send strong signals that something is happening here.
This kind of touching is intimate, and by doing it you’re automatically adding that intimacy into your relationship.
A light touch on the arm won’t drop him to one knee and have him proposing, but it’s a strong step towards a more serious relationship. [Read – 15 Awesomely Easy Ways to Get Him to Propose Fast]
Sometimes that feeling of love is so overwhelming we throw caution to the wind. People can be a put off by someone coming on to them too strongly, so avoid outright declarations of love too early (“I know I’ve only known you for 8 hours, and I NEVER do this, but I just feel such a connection with you, it’s just so amazing…”).
It’s too much, and if he’s not already in love with you, this won’t make him fall for you. [Read – 22 Obvious Signs a Guy Loves You]
Don’t live in the past. Too many of us are caught up in past relationships, a desire to prove something to someone, or a justified desire to make sure ‘this time is different’. Don’t obsess about it (at least out loud).
This relationship is about NOW and your future, not about making up for past issues and failed relationships. To make someone fall in love with you, be present and positive.
Of course you can’t MAKE someone fall in love with you. If the person isn’t interested at all, a few eye glances and some gentle touching aren’t going to turn them around. But understanding how people react to certain stimuli can certainly give you an upper hand.
By using these above tips, you’ll be sending all sorts of messages to their sub-conscious that love is indeed happening, and by appealing to a positive outlook on life, their conscious side will also be convinced that good things are happening.