Have you got your eye on someone, but you’re afraid you’ll drive him away? Learn how to make a guy want you… and make him want to stay for good.
Getting a man’s attention is easy, but keeping it, is the tricky part. I already said this many times because it’s the most important fact, sorry for repeating though 🙁
Men have an on/off switch that’s easy to turn off as it is to turn on.
It’s a given that most men are attracted to women on a more superficial level, but in the end, beauty won’t matter if you manage to do something that would make them go running for the hills.
Catch Me If You Can
It may sound cliché, but men do love the thrill of the chase. The word “chase” may bring up images of Wile E. Coyote in hot pursuit of the Roadrunner. It’s something like that, except at some point, you do want to get caught.
The trick is to keep him on his toes long enough for him to realize that you’re a keeper, but be careful not to string him along for too long, or he may just give up.
You should first learn the rules of the game to make him want you more. How hard can it be? He already likes you, now all you have to do is make him want to be with you, right?
In theory, yes, it’s that simple; however, a lot of women out there have learned the hard way (and some still seem like they’ve not learned anything at all) that making a guy want you or want to pursue a relationship with you isn’t as easy as getting him to ask you out on a date.
Read on and learn the do’s and don’ts of the dating game.
Don’t Be Too Available
You had a life before you met him. Live it. If it appears as if your schedule revolves around him, then it’s obvious to him that it’s game over. If he asks you out on a date, don’t let him know you’re willing to re-arrange your schedule just to accommodate him (even if you are).
Don’t be afraid he’ll think you’re not interested if you tell him you’re doing something (especially if you really are) on Friday night. Just tell him that you’re busy then suggest going out on Saturday instead.
Don’t Be Too Clingy
Guys need space. Calling him three times a day is a big no-no, and so is asking him why he hasn’t called you after your date. If you’re not exclusively dating or in a committed relationship with each other, then he is not required to check in on you or call you every day.
Don’t push the panic button if he doesn’t call you right away. He’s probably busy living his own life and he also expects you to be living yours.
Don’t Compare Him to Your Ex
Contrary to popular belief, not all men are the same (gasp!). Yes ladies, there are good men out there and if the guy you’re dating is one of them, he doesn’t want to be compared to the guy that broke your heart.
Constant talk about your ex will give him the impression that you’re not over him, and chances are he’s right. He also might get the idea that you’ll be badmouthing him if ever the two of you break up. [Read – 6 Very Irritating Things Women Do That Turn Men Off]
If you want him to know how great he is (compared to the losers you used to date), just tell him how much you appreciate him instead of comparing him to past lovers.
This phrase has been overused to the point that it shouldn’t have to be said anymore; however, a lot of people still pretend to be someone they’re not. Girls, in particular, try to be the woman she thinks her man wants her to be.
While you may have to change some things about yourself, doing it to please a particular guy will not work out well in the end. If you’re going to change, do it for yourself. Do it because it will make you a better person, and not because you don’t totally fit your guy’s type.
Besides, wouldn’t it be better if you won him over because of who you are and not because of who you think he wants you to be?
While being shy and timid has its perks, men find women who exude self-confidence quite sexy. If you really want a guy to want you, then you should shed off all your insecurities and love yourself for who you are.
When a woman is confident about who she is, it shows in how she looks, in the clothes she wears and in her body language. Confidence comes out naturally and it cannot be forced or faked.
Be warned that men can tell whether a girl is masking her insecurities by trying to appear confident, so in the end, the only one you’d be fooling is yourself. A little too much confidence can also be a little intimidating to guys, so don’t try to overdo it. [Read – Why Relationships Fail – How to Make a Relationship Work]
Feed His Ego
Women aren’t the only ones who love to hear a compliment or two, especially coming from someone they’re interested in. Feeding a man’s ego, when done properly, is an even better way to a man’s heart.
Men who actually devote time in grooming themselves love to be told that they did a good job on it. Casually tell him he looks good in what he’s wearing, or that you like how he styled his hair. If you feel awkward about giving him verbal compliments, you can still make him feel appreciated by focusing on him when you’re together.
Make eye contact when talking to him, listen actively to what he’s saying and laugh at his jokes. This way, he knows you’re interested in him and that you enjoy his company.
The time couples spend getting to know each other is sort of like a sneak peek into what their relationship is going to be. Take things slow and show him what a catch you really are and how stupid he would be if he let you slip away.
The initial attraction can only take you so far and what happens next would depend on how you present yourself to your prospective mate. Don’t worry if things don’t work out with a particular guy you like. If you’re truly confident and happy about who you are, then it’s his loss.
A woman who is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside won’t have a hard time finding someone else who would appreciate her and like her for who she is.