What do you do when you think you’ve found “the one”? If you want to make a guy fall in love with you, you must first learn how to make a guy want you.
If you’ve stumbled across this while trying to look for a shortcut or a spell that would magically make him fall madly for you, then you may be disappointed; however, you may learn a thing or two about how to make a guy see you as someone he can actually fall in love with.
Unless you pray hard enough and some sort of divine intervention occurs or you find a powerful magic spell to use, you simply cannot make him love you if he doesn’t want to.
The best thing you can do is to make him want to be with you and get to know you better and pretty soon he’ll have that much-awaited light bulb moment when he realizes that he’s fallen for you.
When it comes to love and relationships, men take a more logical approach. For most of them, whatever it is they feel for a woman, it has to make sense for it to be real.
If he’s already interested in you, your challenge is to make him see that it makes sense to love you, that it feels right to love you because it is right. [Read – 22 Obvious Signs a Guy Loves You]
Sounds like an impossible feat? No, not at all.
In fact, making a guy fall for you is all about being yourself and not trying to impress him too much. Contrary to what most people believe, men adore women who are confident and comfortable in their own skin, so if you want to reel a man in, then you have to be just that and more.
Simple, right? Okay, maybe not.
But there are some things that you can do to make a man see you as more than someone he enjoys spending time with. Read on to learn 7 tips and tricks you should learn to get him to want to be with you, and if you’re lucky, even fall in love with you.
1. Be a Better Version of Yourself
The first rule of dating and relationships is to be yourself. Who you are is already awesome and that’s why he’s into you. There’s no need for any drastic changes, but there’s no harm in making yourself even more awesome than you already are.
Whether it’s changing your hairstyle, going to the gym, or learning and mastering a new skill, men won’t help but notice how much more confident, vibrant and full of life you are than you were when you first met, and we all know that’s one of a woman’s traits men find sexy.
Constant change for the better also shows a man that you value yourself and your relationship enough to become a stable and supportive partner in life. [Read – How To Look HOT and Sexier]
2. Be an Inspiration, Not a Distraction
It’s not too difficult for a woman to distract a guy who’s smitten with them. Unfortunately, this distraction can make him temporarily lose focus of the bigger picture, and when he realizes that he’s dropped the ball because of a woman, rest assured he’ll drop the woman so that he can get his life back.
You don’t want that, do you?
If you’ve seen the movie As Good As It Gets, you would be familiar with the famous line “You make me want to be a better man.” That’s exactly what you’re supposed to aim for. If you can inspire a man to better himself, then it won’t be long before he’s whispering the magic words “I love you” in your ears.
3. Learn to Like His Friends
Friendship is sacred to men and the longer they’ve been friends with someone, the more loyal they become. If you start nitpicking at the type of people he hangs out with, don’t assume that he’ll pick you over his friends because in all likelihood, that’s not going to happen.
You have to remember that he has been friends with these people longer than he has known you and unless he’s already in a committed relationship with you (which he isn’t if you’re still trying to make him love you), you don’t really have a say on who his friends should be. [Read – 6 Very Irritating Things Women Do That Turn Men Off]
The best way to deal with this problem is to learn to like his friends. If for some reason that’s absolutely not possible, then it’s best to give him the space he needs to hang out with his friends and trust that he won’t do anything stupid when he’s with them.
4. Make His Friends Like You
Since we’ve already touched on the topic of his friends, there’s another thing you need to know about them.
Although a lot of you don’t want to have anything to do with your man’s friends, you must accept that they’re a part of his life and they usually have something to say about who their friend dates and who he falls in love with, and believe it or not, he’s more likely to listen to them than to trust his instincts.
If his friends like you, then they’ll be more inclined to support him having a relationship with you, and if his friends support you then it’s easier for him to open up to you and let you into his heart. Besides, if they like you enough, they may even take your side if you and your man end up arguing about something.
5. Don’t Make Him Lose Interest In You
Men usually have a short attention span when it comes to dating and relationships. It can take a second to be smitten with you and it can also take a second for him to lose interest.
It’s obvious to a guy when a girl he’s asking out is just playing hard to get, so there’s no use pretending. You should, however, make sure that you don’t lay all your cards on the table at once. This way, he’ll want to get to know you better and pretty soon, he’ll realize that he wants to be with you.
6. Make Him Feel Important
You’re a sexy, confident and independent woman and he knows that he’s lucky to be dating you. There’s no need to rub his face in it.
You see, aside from his heart, you also need to take care of his ego. There’s no need to suddenly put on the damsel in distress act just so that he’ll feel needed. You can do this by allowing him to do little things for you. It could be as simple as asking for his opinion on a major decision you’re making or asking him to build or fix something up for you.
It also won’t hurt to give him the spotlight every now and then. Whether they admit to it or not, men want to be appreciated, and showing him how much he means to you every now and then may just make him want to stick around.
7. Don’t Force The Issue
If there’s one thing that most men are allergic to, it’s pressure. Not the kind of pressure you get from your job or other things you have to go through in your everyday life.
Men tend to run away when women put on the pressure when it comes to relationships. If he isn’t in love with you yet, then all you can do is wait for it to happen.
You can’t rush a guy into wanting you or loving you, just as much as no one can tell you who to fall in love with and when the right time is to fall in love. [Read – What Men Want – Are Men Really Only After One Thing?]
Let him know how you feel about him, but make it clear that you just want to get it out there so that he would have something to consider. When you’ve said your piece, don’t demand for him to answer. Just let him be, let the information (which he may already know but wasn’t sure of) sink in, and wait.
While waiting for him to realize that he’d be stupid not to fall in love with you, focus more on yourself in the meantime and make sure that you don’t lose yourself in your quest to make him love you. This way, if he is unable to reciprocate your feelings, you won’t be as devastated as if you had made it your mission to make him fall for you.
Falling in love is involuntary. It’s easier for some to open their hearts to someone special. For others on the other hand, it’s a constant work in progress.
The key is to know when to hang on and when to give up. If you can’t get a guy you like to like you back or fall for you, it doesn’t mean that you’re not desirable.
There are so many men out there who would fall in love with you in a heartbeat and all you need to do is wait for that man to come into your life.