Learning how to get a guy to ask you out really isn’t all that difficult. Just follow a few simple steps and he’ll be asking you out in no time!
It can be very frustrating when you’ve got your eye on someone and he doesn’t seem to notice you.
The same goes for a guy that you’ve known for a while who flirts with you occasionally, but hasn’t really shown any signs that he’s going to ask you out anytime soon.
Your friends may be telling you to put yourself out of your misery and ask him out already. That’s actually pretty sound advice, but wouldn’t it be better if he asked you out, instead?
It’s already a given that men love the thrill of the chase, but the question is, how can a girl make herself the focus of the said chase.
Why Hasn’t He Asked Me Out Yet?
You know he likes you, but it seems to take him forever to take the plunge and finally ask you out. There are many possible reasons why the guy you’ve been eyeing still hasn’t called you to ask you out.
He could just be a shy guy who needs a little encouragement, or he could be afraid that you’ll reject him. It’s also possible that he’s taking his time, or maybe he just likes you as a friend. Whatever his reasons may be, you shouldn’t throw in the towel just yet.
There are 8 things you can try to make him see what he’s missing and want to ask you out.
1. Don’t show him how much you really want to go out with him
Nothing turns a guy off more than a girl who seems desperate to go out with him. Keep your cards close to your chest and try your hardest to pretend that he doesn’t make your heart skip a beat whenever he walks by.
Constantly texting him or cornering him just to get to talk to him will make him feel uncomfortable around you. Be casual when he’s around, but don’t act indifferently as he may take that as a hint to take a hike.
2. Drop a hint or two
You don’t want him to find out just how much you’re dying to go out with him, but it won’t hurt to drop a hint or two to let him know that it’s okay to ask you out.
The problem with most guys is that sometimes, the fear of rejection is stronger than the urge to pursue a girl they really like. Let him know that he won’t have a door slammed in his face when he asks you out.
Little things like making eye contact when talking to him, laughing at his jokes, or touching his arm ever so lightly can give him a hint that you’re open to taking the friendship a little bit further.
3. Get your friends to help you
It’s not unusual for guys to misread your body language and see your efforts to let him know you’re interested as a sign that you just want to be friends. Before you go and ask him out yourself, try getting your friends involved first.
If the guy on your radar is oblivious to the fact that you like him enough to go out on a date with him, your friends can jokingly let him know how clueless he is to the fact that you’re just waiting for him to make a move.
4. Find out what your common interests are
A simple conversation with a guy can open up many opportunities to get him to ask you out on a date.
If during the course of the conversation he mentions that there’s a movie that he’s been dying to watch, you can enthusiastically chime in and let him know that you’ve been dying to watch that movie, too. This response will give him an opening to say, “Maybe we can watch it together.”
This can be applied to other hobbies and interests the both of you may share; however, make sure you are really not lying about liking a certain hobby or sport. He’s bound to find out once you’re on the date and he may not want to ask you out again. If you don’t have any common interests, this may be an opportunity to try something new.
If he mentions a hobby that you’re not familiar with, let him know that you’re willing to try something new, and maybe he’ll teach you a thing on or two on your date.
5. Show him what he’s missing out on
If he sees you just as a friend, then it’s a bit more difficult to get him to change his mind and actually ask you out on a date.
Luckily, it’s easier for a girl to get out of the dreaded “friend zone” than it is for a guy. Show him how desirable you really are. You don’t have to go as far as sending yourself flowers and showing them off to him pretending it came from someone else.
You just need to make him see that you’re more than just a friend material.
6. Find out where he likes to hang out
If the guy you like doesn’t hang out with your circle of friends, then you need to do something to make sure he sees you often enough to let him know you exist.
Find out where he usually hangs out and drop by from time to time when you know he’s going to be there. Yes, this may seem like borderline stalking, but showing up at his favorite bar with your friends every now and then, or working out at the same gym can help put you on his radar. If he sees you often enough, he will want to strike up a conversation with you.
7. Dazzle him with your wit and confidence
If you’ve just met him and you want to get to know him better, make sure that you make the most out of your conversations together. Be yourself and show him how confident and witty you are and he’ll want a chance to talk to you more and to get to know you better.
8. Patience is a virtue
Some guys like to take their sweet time, but that doesn’t mean he’s not in to you or he’s not going to ask you out. He might just be sizing up the situation and figuring out how to ask you out, or he may just be waiting for the perfect moment to ask you out.
If you try to rush him into something he’s not ready for, you just might turn him off and you’ll never get that chance to know him on a deeper level. Before you make a move, try to get a feel of the situation first. This way, you won’t get ahead of yourself and lose the chance to go out with him.
It’s easy to get a guy to ask you out, especially if you’re his type or if you’re someone he can get along with and would actually consider going out with. You should have something in you that would pique his curiosity and interest. If you have that special something that would attract him to you, then don’t be afraid to show it.
Hiding who you really are or pretending to be someone you’re not won’t get you anywhere with anyone. Besides, you would want a guy to ask you out because he likes you for you, and not because he thinks he can change you into what he wants you to be.
It’s also important to realize that there is only so much you can do to make a guy like you enough to ask you out. If you’re not his type or if he doesn’t see you as the type of girl he would want to spend more time to get to know, then all the tricks won’t be able to help you.
If he’s not interested in you, it’s better for you to set your sights on someone who actually wants to be with you. There are so many men out there who would do anything to go out with you. You just need to know where to look.