Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? It’s a big ‘YES’ from me but true fact is that, spending time apart with the one you love can be beneficial, but it can also cause some problems. Why? Read this post completely and you will come to know what is most important in a relationship. (It has nothing to do with distance)
Absence Makes the Heart Grow FonderBeing apart from the people we love isn’t something that we want, but sometimes it is necessary. Whether it’s taking a job in another city or country, or needing some alone time, there’s always that possibility of having to spend time away from each other.
Some couples benefit from the time spent without their significant others, while other couples drift farther apart. Before you get separation anxiety just thinking about being away from your partner, it is important to understand how absence can help build a stronger relationship, as well as how it can destroy a partnership.
Why Is a Little Time Apart Beneficial?
There’s a saying that goes, “You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.” Every minute spent with the person we love is special, but when we spend too much time together, there’s the tendency to take each other for granted. Spending a significant amount of time apart can help us realize that we should treasure every hour, every minute, and every second we have with someone who is special to us.
You don’t have to completely lose someone you love to be able to realize this. The key is to give each other enough space to appreciate how important you are to each other. If you can maintain that balance, then your relationship will only get better.
If you feel that you’re being taken for granted or if you’ve ever spent way too much time with your partner that it’s beginning to cause friction between the two of you, you may benefit from some time apart from your significant other.
Make plans with your friends for a weekend getaway, or set aside some time for a new hobby. The idea is to spend enough time away from the person you love to be able to focus on yourself and what you want and then come back to your partner feeling refreshed. When you’re happy with yourself, it makes it easier for you to make your partner happy.
How Can Separation Lead to Break-Ups?
Giving each other space is a good thing, but what happens if you give each other too much space? A relationship built of a solid foundation of mutual love, respect, and trust can withstand long periods of separation. The promise of being together after a given period of time gives these couples something to hang on to.
Long distance relationships have been proven to work as long as both parties do their part to re-assure and re-affirm your love for each other regularly. The internet has been quite helpful in keeping couples in touch through video calls and social networking sites, which makes long distance relationships easier to maintain.
Unfortunately, a lot of seemingly stable relationships still falter when faced with long-term separation. Feelings of loneliness can take over which makes it easier to succumb to temptation. This is why constant communication is even more important with couples who are not together physically.
Physical absence can really put a damper on a relationship, but emotional absence is worse. Spending a lot of time together doesn’t mean anything when one or both parties are emotionally absent. Emotional absence is one of the most common causes one or both parties to feel isolated in the relationship which can lead to loss of physical intimacy, and incidents of cheating.
Couples, who don’t pay attention to each other’s needs, end up hurting each other and will inevitably break up. While physical contact is important in a relationship, it’s not the only thing that matters. You need to be able to show your partner how much you care for each other.
It doesn’t matter if you’re an arm’s length away or if you’re in the other side of the world. What matters is that your partner knows how much you love him or her and that your strong bond and the trust you have for each other isn’t broken.
Absence is a double-edged sword when it comes to relationships. It can help you nurture a healthy relationship, but it can also tear what was once a beautiful relationship apart. In small doses, separation can help you realize how much a person means to you and vice versa.
It can help you maintain a clear mind as you move forward with a relationship, and yes, it can make the heart grow fonder. Too much absence, however, is dangerous (I have to admit this after looking at various relationship issues). Unless you’re emotionally equipped to deal with long-term physical separation, the results can be quite disastrous.